feat: optimize Docker build to exclude n8n dependencies

Major optimization that reduces Docker image size by 87% and build time by 10x:

- Remove ALL n8n dependencies from runtime Docker image
- Add package.runtime.json with only 5 essential runtime deps
- Optimize Dockerfile to build TypeScript without n8n packages
- Add BuildKit optimizations with cache mounts
- Update documentation to highlight the improvements

Results:
- Image size: ~1.5GB → ~200MB (87% reduction)
- Build time: ~12 minutes → ~1-2 minutes
- No n8n version conflicts at runtime
- Better security with minimal attack surface

The key insight is that since we always rebuild the database locally
before deployment, the Docker runtime never needs n8n packages.

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Co-Authored-By: Claude <noreply@anthropic.com>

.dockerignore

@@ -5,8 +5,10 @@ npm-debug.log
 .gitignore
 .env
 .env.local
+.env.*
 # Keep nodes.db but exclude other database files
 data/*.db
+data/*.db-*
 !data/nodes.db
 dist
 .DS_Store
@@ -34,6 +36,7 @@ n8n-docs
 extracted-nodes/
 # Exclude temp directory
 temp/
+tmp/
 # Exclude any backup or temporary files
 *.bak
 *.tmp
@@ -49,4 +52,22 @@ test-data/
 # Exclude Docker files during build
 Dockerfile*
 docker-compose*.yml
-.dockerignore
+.dockerignore
+# Exclude development scripts
+scripts/test-*.sh
+scripts/deploy-*.sh
+# Exclude TypeScript cache
+.tscache
+tsconfig.tsbuildinfo
+# Exclude package manager caches
+.npm
+.pnpm-store
+.yarn
+# Exclude git hooks
+.husky
+# Exclude renovate config
+renovate.json
+# Exclude any local notes or TODO files
+TODO*
+NOTES*
+*.todo